tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33288643.post854070497468011213..comments2023-12-18T03:54:34.700-05:00Comments on RockyCat: What the Hell Do You Say to That?rockygracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14457010488015617811noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33288643.post-91598346087220989682007-07-02T18:48:00.000-04:002007-07-02T18:48:00.000-04:00God, she's good that Bridgett. I wouldn't know of...God, she's good that Bridgett. I wouldn't know of anything more helpful than that to do. It sounds like sense to me.<BR/><BR/>Sorry, not of any use...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33288643.post-89809760029451531532007-07-02T15:00:00.000-04:002007-07-02T15:00:00.000-04:00Thanks for the help, Bridgett! I appreciate your ...Thanks for the help, Bridgett! I appreciate your advice, and I will definitely try, "I'm not mad at you, but I am a little sad about ...". Great idea.rockygracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14457010488015617811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33288643.post-43112858102425241272007-07-02T14:16:00.000-04:002007-07-02T14:16:00.000-04:00Paranoia (mild to rage-inducing) is part of the di...Paranoia (mild to rage-inducing) is part of the disease, so I guess the first thing that everyone says is "don't take it personally." That's bs. You're talking to your mom. It's impossible not to take it personally, even if you rationally know that the dementia is progressing, because you're human.<BR/><BR/> I don't know quite how I'd handle that particular one, other than maybe if she's aware of her own condition (some are, some are only sporadically aware, and others don't seem to know why they are dotty-headed) saying that "I'm not mad at you, but I am a little sad about..." and then whatever is actually making you sad about your mom's health. <BR/><BR/>It sounds like she's really hard to redirect to another activity or idea (which is always my go-to gambit with dementia/Alzheimer's family members), but maybe confirming to her that she still can detect something wrong with you -- which, as a mom, imagine how it must be to think that you aren't able to accurately do that with your kid any more -- would be comforting to her and lead her away from feeling persecuted. She might be happy to be the consoler and the caregiver for a change.<BR/><BR/>Tough one, though. <BR/><BR/>-- bridgettAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com